101 Love Tips

Hey, did you know that learning about what works and what doesn’t work in blogging is a great way to polish your dating skills, too? It’s true! At its core, creating a successful blog is about communicating well, connecting with your audience, and putting on your best face . . . each of which are great romantic ideas for improving your personal relationships, as well.

So does this mean that the most successful bloggers have the best relationships, too? I don’t know the answer to that, but it sure seems that Darren Rowse, Alister Cameron, John Chow and Dan and Jennifer do a great job of injecting the same creativity, passion and intensity into their relationships as they do into their ultra-successful blogs. Having a great blog may not guarantee that you’l have a great dating life or marriage, but following the same secrets of success will certainly put you on the right track.

Luckily, you don’t have to start your own blog to learn what those secrets are. The top ten are listed below, tested and refined by millions of bloggers across the globe.Whether you use them to improve your dating life or your blog is up to you. Just remember: you can’t kiss a computer screen!

Top Ten Reasons why Blogging is Like Dating

1. First impressions are everything.

Sure, you may have plenty of useful, exciting stuff to offer someone, but they’ll never get a chance to find out if you don’t set the stage with a great first impression.

In dating, that’s done by taking good care of your physical appearance, having a positive attitude, and showing interest in your date. In blogging, you need a clean, professional design, easily-accessible and interesting content, and a readily-defined subject so your visitors know what you’re about right away.

2. You should never pretend to be someone you aren’t.

Playing a role and acting like you’re someone else may get you somewhere in the short run, but if you aren’t the person you’re pretending to be, you’re going to get found out eventually. If you’re trying to fool your date into thinking you’re an expert on a topic you have no passion for, they’re going to figure your out sooner or later.

The same goes for blogging. Blog about what you enjoy, not what your think will bring you money and fame.

3. Finding the one for you can take time.

What are the chances that your very first date will lead you into the arms of your perfect match? Close to zero. That special someone may be out there, but you may have to search for a long time to find them. Just because you’ve suffered from a string of bad dates, you shouldn’t give up hope and stop trying.

Similarly, just because you’ve had some failures with different blogs doesn’t mean you should turn off the computer and quit. Finding your niche in the blogging world can take time, too. Your failures are giving you more experience, and that next blog just might be the one that takes off for you.

4. A bad reputation can ruin your chances.

Deserved or not, a bad reputation can sabotage an opportunity to start a relationship with an interesting new person. Sure, it’s possible to put your past behind you and become a better, more appealing person, but overcoming a bad reputation can take a long time and a lot of hard work. “Oh, I’ve heard of you” is never something you want to hear on a first date.

In the blogosphere, a bad reputation can be earned just as easily. Whether it’s through rude comments on other blogs or sloppy and unprofessional writing on your own, a bad blogging reputation can follow you around for years. Remember: everything you ever post online is going to be there for everyone to see for a long, long time!

5. Good communication is essential.

If you can’t communicate to your date about who you are, your passions and your dreams, it will probably end up being a pretty short evening. Creating a great romantic relationship is all about communicating, getting to know each other, and learning about what makes each other tick. Having a pretty face is fine, but without communication skills, you’re probably going to face a string of lousy relationships.

Communication is just as important, if not moreso, in blogging. You can distract a new visitor with flashy aesthetic stuff for a few minutes, but unless you’re able to effectively communicate to them about why your blog is worth visiting again, they won’t be back. And you might have great ideas for posts, but if you can’t write or edit worth a darn, who’s going to want to trudge through them?

6. You should concentrate on what you have in common.

Having things in common with your significant other is essential in maintaining a successful romantic relationship, and the old adage about “opposites attract” is hogwash. One of the best ways to capture your date’s interest and guarantee a second date is by discovering what you have in common. If you discover that you just don’t have any mutual interests or experiences, it’s probably a good sign that you just won’t work out.

Having things in common with your blog’s visitors is every bit as essential if you want to build a loyal readership. If you find yourself starting to post on things that have nothing to do with your readers’ interests, it may be time to close up shop and start another blog with a new subject.

7. “Playing the field” can get you into big trouble.

There are plenty of people who do just fine with juggling several shallow, uncommitted relationships at once, but that sort of lifestyle will never let them reap the benefits of a loving, monogamous relationship. Having multiple relationships at once will make you less emotionally satisfied, less financially secure, and more at risk for a long list of unappetizing hazards.

And the exact same can be said for blogging! There are a few examples of people who have found success by starting a dozen blogs at once, but most people who try that just end up with twelve crappy blogs. It’s better to concentrate your efforts on one blog, building its readership and then branching out into other similar niches when you’ve found success with your flagship.

8. There’s nothing more attractive than self-confidence.

Arrogance is never an attractive quality, but a healthy amount of self-confidence is extremely appealing on a first date. Showing confidence in your abilities, lifestyle and unique qualities makes other people more excited about learning about you, and a confident, upbeat person is just plain fun to be around.

Showing self-confidence in your blog posts is a great way to build reader loyalty and trust. Never second-guess yourself, put your own blog down or back down in the face of inevitable criticism. Instead, present your content as professionally, confidently and optimistically as possible.

9. You’ll improve your chances for success if you make sure things are right in your life first.

Let’s put it bluntly: if you’re having serious problems with your family, career or mindset in your own life, it’s not the right time to try to find a person to share that life with you. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t allow yourself to get to know interesting new people until everything in your life is perfect. I am saying that concentrating on building a successful career, a successful relationship with your friends and family, and a optimistic outlook on life will help out your dating life immensely.

If you’re thinking of starting up a blog, make sure you’re in a position in your life to take on the responsibility. First and foremost, never assume it will be a replacement for your career. The livelihood that supports your family will always be more important than your hobbies, but plenty of bloggers have let their addiction to the blogosphere negatively affect their performance at work.

10. Learning to love yourself makes it easier for others to love you.

That good old cliche about “love thyself” is some of the best advice you can get to build a better, more loving relationship. Feeling good about yourself, and being proud of the things you do, is a great way to learn to concentrate on your best qualities and share them with those around you.

You may enjoy blogging, but have you truly learned to love your blog? Do you feel good about its unique qualities? Can you look through the eyes of your loyal visitors and see what they enjoy about it? Being critical of ourselves and our projects is good to a certain degree, but make sure you allow yourself to be proud of your blog’s best qualities. Learning to love your blog will let you offer your readers more of what makes it truly great!

Posting about romantic ideas every day here on Romance Tracker is a pretty easy thing to do, but actually adding more romance to your relationship and making it more fulfilling for your and your sweetheart can be difficult if you’ve hit a rough patch.  If you’re having problems in your romantic relationship and want to avoid a breakup, the best ways to refresh your love life and bring back excitement aren’t always easy to discover.

Every relationship faces its own unique challenges and difficulties, and the solutions to your romantic problems can be just as unique.  Loss of romantic interest, not having enough in common, family difficulties, even unfaithfulness or suspected cheating . . . any can spell trouble for a relationship, but none have to mean the end of your romance.

Remember, relationship problems are inevitable for any romantic couple, but if you face them as a determined team, they can actually make your love even stronger.  With optimism, patience, and understanding, you can turn any problem into an experience that will help you and your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband fall even deeper in love.

And while you’re the only person who can discover the best ways to save your struggling relationship, there are many foolproof, effective and simple methods you can use to add more love to the mix and make yourself more likely to succeed.  Ten of the easiest ways to stop your relationship from breaking up are listed below . . . but don’t stop with them!

Top Ten Ways to Save Your Relationship

1.  Make your sweetheart your number one priority

We all have responsibilities in our lives that take us away from our families and lovers, and fulfilling those responsibilities is part of being a good partner and a romantic person.  But even if you can’t spend as much time with your sweetheart as you would like, there are lots of ways to make it clear to them that they are still the number-one priority in your life.

2.  Learn about your sweetheart’s interests

We all bring unique interests, hobbies and talents to a relationship, and learning about your lover’s tastes and skills is a great way to appreciate them more and share rewarding time together.  Learning from each other and experiencing new things as a couple will bring you closer together, make your relationship more exciting and expand your horizons.

3.  Brag about your relationship

No one likes a loudmouth who never shuts up about their love life, but telling your friends, family and coworkers about how much you love your romantic relationship is a great way to make your sweetheart feel appreciated and make you excited about your romance.  Making it a habit to tastefully mention how thankful you are to have your lover will only make your relationship stronger.   

4.  Say “I’m proud of you” to your sweetheart

Everyone likes to feel that they are appreciated, and telling your lover that you are proud of them is one of the simplest . . . and least used . . . ways to make them feel good about themselves and your romantic relationship.  Whether you’re telling them how much you appreciate the job they do, their role in your relationship, or their sacrifices, “I’m proud of you” are four of the most effective words you can use to save your romance.

5.  Lead by example

Keeping score of who’s more romantic in your relationship is one of the worstways to promote romance in your relationship.  Just as members of any successful team have learned, the best way to encourage a certain kind of behavior in others is to lead by example.  So be more romantic with your lover, but don’t insist they do the same.  With enough encouragement, you may be surprised to see them start to come around themselves.

6.  Call in sick to work to spend time with your sweetheart 

I’m not saying you should try to get fired from your job, but if you’re doing well at work there is nothing wrong with taking a tiny holiday to spend time with the most important person in your life.  Briefly putting off other responsibilities to be with your lover is a great way to show them that they are the number one priority in your world.  

7.  Introduce some competition into your relationship

No, I don’t mean to make your sweetheart jealous by dating another person.  But a little good-natured romantic competition–whether it’s through competitive games, contests, sports, or bets–can be a terrific way to add a little excitement, interaction, and playfulness into your relationship.

8.  Compliment your sweetheart every now and then

Sure, it’s easy to overdo compliments and come across as over-the-top or insincere.  But regardless of whether or not your lover knows how you feel about them, a simple, kind compliment once in a while goes a long way in making them feel good about themselves and your relationship.

9. Get over your fear of coming across as too “clingy”

 

There’s a big difference between being tastefully romantic with your sweetheart and being “clingy.”  Hand-holding, simple kisses on the cheek and other subtle acts of love are nothing to be ashamed of.  It shows your lover that you aren’t embarrassed of your romance and will add a much-needed dimension to your relationship.

10.  Learn to love yourself

Part of the reason why some people have a difficult time appreciating romantic gestures is that they don’t understand why their lover is so fond of them.  Learning to appreciate your own talents, gifts and innate goodness will help you appreciate your sweetheart’s feelings and let you accentuate your best qualities.  Ultimately, learning to love yourself will teach you how to love your romantic partner more. 

So you’ve already learned the secret to watching romantic movies with your significant other . . . but you don’t know what movie to pick for a fun date or a special, romantic night together?

Look no further! Romance Tracker’s extensive poll on the most romantic movies of all time is finally complete, and the top ten picks may surprise you. It’s a pretty diverse list; some good-old classics, a few of modern titles, and multiple genres to boot. But all of them have a few important things in common: great writing, great originality, and great romance.

So look through the list, pick out a couple that sound good to you, and curl up on the couch with your sweetheart for a great night full of old-fashioned romance. Your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband will thank you for it . . . just make sure you don’t forget the popcorn.

And if you have your own opinion on a romantic movie you think should have been on our list, why not let our readers know by leaving a comment below?

The Top Ten Most Romantic Movies of All Time

1. Casablanca

The most romantic movie of all time has more than just romance; there’s also murder, mystery, patriotism, bar fights, and . . . dead Nazis! It just doesn’t get much better than that. And the final scene, when Rick gives Ilsa the famous “hill of beans” speech before sending her off with Victor, is probably the greatest example of selfless love in cinema history. If you don’t know what “we’ll always have Paris” means, you need to go rent this movie now.

2. Edward Scissorhands

Tim Burton has made some pretty weird doggone movies, but Edward Scissorhands is an amazing modern romantic fairytale. Everyone can relate to the story of a person whose heart aches for someone who they could never have, but Edward’s character embodies “so close, yet so far” like no other. How the heck can you hold the person you love when you have razor blades for fingers?

3. An Affair to Remember

Hollywood has rewritten this one a few times in recent years, but there’s still no substitute for the original. The final scene, when Nicky Ferrante sees his painting and realizes that Terry is paralyzed, is one of the greatest in cinematic history. If you make it to the credits without at least feeling some twinge of emotion, then you’re officially a sociopath.

4. The Princess Bride

This 1987 fairytale classic gets a little silly at times, but even with the bad jokes and midgets in rat costumes it still ranks up there as one of the greatest romance movies of all time. I don’t know if true love can really bring a man back from being “mostly dead,” but this movie sure makes you think it’s possible. As you wish!

5. Cyrano de Bergerac

Okay, there have been about a million movies made out of this classic, tragic story, and I’m sure they’re all pretty darn good. Even Roxanne, the modern version that stars Steve Martin as a big-nosed firefighter, isn’t too bad. But My favorite is the 1990 French version starring Gerard Depardieu, and if you can stand reading subtitles it’s one heck of a date movie.

6. Somewhere in Time

Okay, the idea of some dude using self-hypnosis to travel back in time is kind of lame, but once you get past that, this is a great romantic date movie. The idea that a person’s one true love might exist in a different time is pretty original, albeit depressing, and Christopher Reeve and Jane Seymore are great on screen together. And if Richard hadn’t left that damn penny in his pocket, they might have stayed that way.

7. Romeo and Juliet

Come on, I had to include this one on the list. It’s another romantic classic that has been done countless times on the big and small screen, with the most original probably being the modern version with Leonardo DiCaprio where everyone was walking around with automatic firearms. But the Romeo and Juliet on this list is referring to the 1968 Franco Zeffirelli version, so rent that one.

8. Braveheart

Yah, there’s a lot of blood and guts in this movie, but remember: William Wallace cut up all those Englishman because they killed his one true love. That, along with the fact that this is such an awesome movie, gives it a secure spot on the list of the most romantic movies of all time. So what if the title sounds like a Care Bear?

9. The Quiet Man

Not a lot of our generation has seen this movie, but believe me, they’re missing out. Just like “Casablanca,” “The Quiet Man” is more than just a romance movie; it’s also hilarious, has some great drunken brawls, and is about a boxer who is trying to run away from a past he’s ashamed of. And you can chalk up the kiss between John Wayne and Maureen O’Hara, during the windstorm on in the field, as the best ever.

10. The African Queen

Yup, that’s two Humphry Bogart movies on this list, but he deserves it. “The African Queen” lets us watch as the pious Rose Sayer reforms hard-drinking Charlie Allnut with her love . . . and they go on to totally sink a Nazi battleship together! Toss in some awesome rapids and a cool scene with leeches, and you’ve got a top-notch date movie.

Here’s a quick list of ten romantic quotes to add a little old-fahioned romance to your day . . .

“Love is a friendship set to music.”

–E. Joseph Cossman

“If you have it [love], you don’t need anything else, and if you don’t have it, it doesn’t matter much what else you have.”

–Sir James M. Barrie

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So, are you one of the lucky people who’s found the man or woman of your dreams? If not, don’t stress out . . . you’re part of a pretty big club! Meeting that perfect person to share your life and passions with can take a lot of persistence and patience, especially if you’ve been single for a long time. Just remember: you need to have faith that there really is someone who is meant for you . . . and dedicate yourself to becoming the best person you can be for when you do finally meet them!

Until that time comes, though, there are a few things you can do to make your life more fulfilling, more romantic, and make it more likely for you to come across the person you’re meant to spend your life with. None of them are hard to do, and all of them are guaranteed to make you happier, more productive, and more fun to be around. In fact, even people who aren’t looking for love could make their lives a heck of a lot better by following these five simple rules! (more…)

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Well, probably not. The first early symptoms of being in love can mirror illness or mental instability, sure. But once you learn to really enjoy being in love and get used to the idea of having a little old-fashioned romance in your life, you’ll start to appreciate these weird new symptoms you’ve come down with. (more…)