101 Love Tips

Becoming involved in a serious romantic relationship can be a pretty overwhelming experience, especially if you’ve never had the privilege of being in love before. It’s hard to think of many things that deserve to be treated with more seriousness and commitment than the romance you have with your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband!

The problem with thin skin

Like everything in life, though, it’s possible to take your romantic relationship or marriage a little too seriously. One of the most important ingredients in a successful relationship is the ability to laugh and have fun even in the face of problems. Thin skin, chronic jealousy and an inability to take stress in stride will all chip away at your relationship and make your sweetheart less likely to trust and share things with you.

External stresses are inevitable in even the best relationships. The words and actions of others, random events and even financial worries can be unpleasant to deal with, but taking them too seriously gives them power over your life and your happiness.

You decide how you feel!

Remember: no person or event has the power to make you upset or unhappy. The only person who decides how you’re going to feel . . . is you! Worrying or obsessing about things that you have no control over–and that your sweetheart had nothing to do with–lets those things affect the health of your romantic relationship.

Now why in the world would you want to let those pitiful outside influences have any control over the happiness of you and your special someone?

Trusting your sweetheart

For some people who take their romance too seriously, the root of the problem is fear that their relationship is going to end. That’s an understandable worry for anyone who values their relationship, but getting bent out of shape over any small event makes a breakup more likely, not less.

Trusting your lover, and being confident that they assign the same amount of importance to your relationship as you do, is the first step in denying outside influences any control over your happiness.

Rather than immediately getting offended or stressed out over something, ask yourself: does this really threaten our relationship? Is my sweetheart really someone who would let this have a negative affect on our happiness?

When you come to the conclusion that the answer to both questions is “no,” make yourself a promise that you won’t let this event have power over your happiness by taking it too seriously.

By learning to take things less seriously and laugh at events that are out of your control, you’ll make your sweetheart feel more trusted, more understood, and more loved.

So, when’s the last time you gave your special someone a genuine compliment?

With good manners and politeness getting less and less common in today’s brusque society, even romantic relationships are starting to suffer from a lack of common courtesy and compliments. Sure, your girlfriend, wife, husband or boyfriend may already know that you think they are attractive or exciting or intelligent. But why should that stop you from complimenting them every now and then?

Compliments shouldn’t only be reserved for new acquaintances or people who you’re trying to impress. The special people whose support we sometimes take for granted need an occasional compliment, too. A simple “you look very nice today” or “I’m very proud of the job you are doing” can make your lover feel like a million bucks.

There’s no reason to go overboard with compliments, of course, and too many can go to a person’s head or start sounding cynical. But promising yourself to give your significant other at least one nice compliment a day is a great way to make your lover feel appreciated and add some good old-fashioned romance to your relationship.

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When you consider how much importance today’s self-centered society attributes to independence and promiscuousness, you can understand why some people might think that old-fashioned romance just doesn’t exist in relationships anymore. The airwaves and the Internet are filled with examples of people shunning monogamous relationships and romance for self-gratification and indulgence, and romantic couples are usually presented as silly and out-of touch.

Luckily, however, true romance really does still exist out there. It’s tough to point out old-fashioned romantics not because they are on the decline, but because old-fashioned romance by its nature is really the opposite of flashy; romance is quiet, romance is patient, and romance is subtle. If someone goes out of their way to show the world how romantic their relationship is, it’s usually not real romance they’re trying to promote at all.

The flashy, shallow stuff may get the air time, but there are millions and millions of couples across the world who are dedicated to each other and who keep romance alive in their relationships in quiet, understated ways every day.

What is true romance? True romance isn’t buying your lover a truckload of flowers and presenting them live on television for the world to see; it’s giving your lover a single rose every week for the rest of your life. True romance isn’t declaring your infatuation for someone in front of an audience of millions; it’s being there for that special person every day, no matter how hard things get, and regardless of how many people know you’re doing it.

Once romantic gestures become widely publicized, they just aren’t as romantic anymore. You can be sure that every day, a million romantic stories play out in a million different places across the world. You’ll never know about the vast majority of them . . . and that’s part of what makes them so romantic! If you’re truly in love with someone, just making them happy in unique and romantic ways is a reward in itself.

So the next time you see an elderly husband and wife walking hand-in-hand in the park, or an adoring boyfriend holding the door for his smiling girlfriend, remember: that is what true romance is, not the over-the-top, flashy stuff you see on television.

A few huge gestures don’t make a person’s life romantic. What makes a romantic life is an endless series of subtle, simple, thoughtful acts of love.

Romantic touching is a vital element in every successful relationship, but far too often couples concentrate on just sexual expression when trying to introduce more physicality. The truly romantic couple, though, knows the importance of incorporating simple, frequent and random acts of touching throughout their day. A quick hug, a kiss on the cheek, and holding your lover’s hand are all extremely important parts of adding old-fashioned romance to your relationship.

The very best romantic ideas are the simplest ones, and you can’t get much simpler and meaningful than romantic hand-holding. Holding hands with your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband is something you can do anyplace and at any time. It’s profoundly powerful in showing your lover how much they mean to you, and is a tasteful way to be physical in public without seeming too clingy. (more…)

Before you roll your eyes at the title of this post, remember that frequent small, romantic gestures are far more important to building better relationships than infrequent, elaborate gestures like expensive gifts or vacations. And giving your significant other a simple, heartfelt kiss on the cheek is an extremely effective, easy way to show you love them many times a day.

While many people might think of a kiss on the cheek as something a parent or grandparent gives to a child, you shouldn’t be afraid to use a quick peck on the cheek to express your feelings to your lover when time or circumstances don’t allow for anything more. When we’re in a hurry, when we’re about to leave each other, or when we meet briefly and unexpectedly, a kiss on the cheek is the perfect way to say “I love you.” (more…)

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Here’s a fun romantic idea I got from the special someone in my life who surprised me last year with a terrific, thoughtful gift that made me feel great. Being romantic comes naturally to some people, and she knows that showing an interest in your lover’s history is a great way to make them feel like a special and important part of your life.

If you’ve been in a romantic relationship with your sweetheart for any significant amount of time, I’m sure you’ve gotten a chance to see plenty of pictures of them from their past. Looking at baby pictures, school yearbook pictures, and silly old family photos of your lover is a fun way to learn about their past and laugh with them. And reaching the point where you’re comfortable enough with your significant other to show them your most embarrassing pictures marks a very important time in your relationship! (more…)

Thank-you letters are a quick and easy way to show your appreciation to others for their thoughtfulness, and few other gestures are as affordable or affective at letting someone know how much their actions mean to you. Especially in today’s impersonal, fast-paced world, a few short, simple, hand-written thank-you cards are wonderful romantic ideas that will make a person feel great.

But unfortunately, many of us limit our thank-you notes to friends and colleagues who have done something special for us, or to people who give us gifts. Sending thank-you letters to gift-givers and other people is great, but when is the last time you sent a romantic thank-you note to that special someone who does more for you than anyone else in the world? (more…)

It’s a given that making an effort to add as much good old-fashioned romance to your relationship as possible will make your life with your significant other more rewarding, exciting and fulfilling. If you’re interested in building a better relationship with your lover and making their happiness the number one priority in your life, you’d be nuts not to make an effort to add more romantic gestures, acts and thinking to the mix. And if you and your sweetheart are both interested in being as romantic as possible, it might be fun to try to out-do each other when it comes to romance and showing your love.

But if you’ve recently discovered how addicting it is to be romantic with your partner, it’s easy to get upset if your lover isn’t as enthusiastic about old-fashioned romance as you are right away. You’re excited about adding a bunch of new romantic ideas to your daily lives and making your relationships more fulfilling, so why can’t they be? Sure, it’s understandable that you’d want your significant other to do as many romantic things as you’re doing, but keeping score on who’s being the most romantic in a relationships is the wrong approach. (more…)

The world is getting busier and faster-paced every day, and adding old-fashioned romance to your relationship can be difficult if you have a hectic career or other responsibilities to worry about.  On the one hand, part of being an old-fashioned romantic involves working hard to provide for and take care of your family. 

But you need to balance that responsibility with paying enough attention to your lover to let them know how important they are to you. Your sweetheart may understand that work or other responsibilities keep you away from home longer than you would like, but do you make sure that they know how much you missed them when you were gone? (more…)